Farewell

Things have moved on significantly, despite still dealing with the pandemic. While back on talking terms, thankfully, my ex, South Africa, and I went through a fairly rough patch. During that time I confirmed a suspicion that he had found this blog and had been reading it. Of course, it's public and he's entitled to, …

Growing from past trauma

A few months ago I started seeing a therapist. For the most part this was to help me overcome a series of panic attacks that I was having when South Africa wouldn't move out and would just go psycho on my ass. I'll write about that again another day. Part of seeing the therapist was …

A New Era

July 31st 2020. This date marks a turning point in my year: the date that my ex finally moved out. More than 6 months since we broke up, and way more than a few months overdue. As we headed into tighter lockdown restrictions due to the plague, it was getting tedious having to see him …

The Holding Pattern

COVID really did a number on us, hey? Back in April I was really hoping the housemate (also the ex-bf) would be moving out. We hadn't been getting along for some time, and things were getting worse and worse. For my own sanity I started seeing a shrink, and that's helped a lot - but …

It Irks

I promise that this blog is not going to become a list of complaints that I have about the ex boyfriend that I'm living with. Once I'm out there dating again, we'll go back to the regular content. In the meantime, let me vent. For the last week we've had a massive fight over the saga, …

The Saga

There exists many universal truths which carry far beyond doubt. Pain helps you grow. Nothing lasts forever. And don't live with your ex. Despite it being a known truth, a few months ago I did move in with my ex. The pandemic was starting, we were working things out, and it helped us both out …

The Beginning of a new Era

It's crazy how life gets in the way of a good time. Three months ago I wrote my first post, which, at the time, was the first post for three months before that. In that post South Africa and I had been together approaching six months and things were going great. Just as I was …

Kicking Goals and Loving Life

It's been a minute. More than three months have passed since I last wrote a post, and for that, I'm sorry. You might remember that I wrote way back in August that life was kicking my butt for a while and while that was happening I was sorting out drama with a twitter follower and …

What To Get Him

TL;DR: What do you get a guy for his birthday when you've only been together for a few weeks? South Africa's birthday is quickly approaching, just over a week away now, and I'm struggling to come up with gift ideas. We've only been seeing each other for a couple months, official for a week or …

When the World Moves, Fast

tl;dr: How soon is too soon to say "I love you"? In my last post I mentioned how it had been a couple months since South Africa and I started seeing each other, and while I was a fan of natural progression, he was waiting for me to officially ask him to be my boyfriend. …